I have understood that we as humans, owning such conditioned minds and carrying so many years of imposed beliefs, we don’t love unconditionally. Unconditional love is just a point of reference, a star that shines in the sky of our hearts reminding us from where we make decisions and act.
There are times where we actually tap into that unconditional love and are able to channel our behavior through that energy. But unless we reach a state of pure presence and enlightenment, we are still conditioned by patterns that drive us to selfishness, fear and ignorance.
Personally, it has taken me a long time to deconstruct the myth of mother’s unconditional love. Perhaps being a mother is the closest experience of unconditional love, though I still see myself having reactions from fear, having expectations, feeling frustrated when I can get my little Buddha to stop crying, and much more actions that are clearly not driven by unconditional love. I would definitely give my life to save him from a dangerous situation, but I also believe that’s instinctual behavior, most mammals in animal kingdom would do the same.
Do not get me wrong, I love my child with all my heart, I am grateful and blessed by his presence in my life, but I also understand that the only way for one to unconditionally love someone, is to become free from conditionings, and that’s something I’m still working on everyday.
What is your experience and perspective about unconditional love? Do you also find yourself reacting from fear, frustration or selfishness sometimes? How do you live your humanity?
If you feel connected with any of these thoughts, I would love to hear your opinion and experience on any of these questions.